Fathers in Islam

Posted by on Jun 2, 2010 in Parents/Kids Archive | 7 comments

The Importance of Fathers

It is well known that Islam places a heavy emphasis on the importance of loving and respecting parents.  In fact Allah (swt) has repeatedly mentioned in the Qur’an that parents hold the next highest status after our Lord and beloved Prophet (s).  Allah (swt) is our supreme provider, sustainer, and protector. He uses parents as a means to provide us, as we grow, with food, shelter, clothing, guidance, and protection from harm.  As creations of Allah (swt) we can never return the favors of our Lord except by being obedient and showing gratitude.  The same can be said for parents.  As children we can never repay the countless favors of our parents accept by being obedient and showing gratitude.  Allah (swt) says in Surah 17 Ayah 23:

“Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor.’

Islam often discusses the value and importance of Mothers.  In fact, Rasulullah (s) has stated several Hadith in regards to the superiority of Mothers.  Islam recognizes that Mothers bare the burden of pregnancy, undergo birth pains in delivering the baby, and sacrifices her own comforts to provide comfort to her children. However, it is important to note that the role of a father is also highly recognized in Islam.  It is said that,

“God’s pleasure is in the pleasure of the father,

and God’s displeasure is in the displeasure of the father.”

Fathers are significant because they are commanded by Allah (swt) to work hard to provide the physical, educational, psychological, and spiritual needs of a child.  ‘Ali ibn al-Husain (r) is reported to have said,

The right of your father on you is that you should know that

it is he who brought you into existence, and you are a branch of the tree of his life.”

According to an article from Family and Consumer Sciences, “Fathers are essential to the healthy growth and development of their children. Dads bring a unique perspective to the family and lives of their children.”

Fathers have a powerful influence on the healthy development of their daughters and sons.

  • School-aged children show significant gains in intellectual development when their fathers are involved with them as infants.
  • Involved fathers enrich their daughter’s and son’s self image.
  • Children who have involved fathers show more sense of humor, longer attention spans, and more eagerness for learning.
  • Father involvement helps teens to develop a strong sense of who they are and increases their ability to resist peer pressure.

Dads are role models who teach their children to be strong, flexible adults.

  • Fathers teach gender roles: they are generally more physically active with their sons and more protective of their daughters.
  • Fathers often think “out of the box” and offer alternative strategies for problem solving.
  • Dads tend to offer more physical play than mothers, which increases the physical competency of their young children.
  • When fathers model behaviors that are respectful to women, their sons are more likely to model their father’s respectful behavior as well.


Islam encourages the need to show continuous kindness, respect, care, and concern towards fathers as it can often be difficult to keep a steady balance between working, taking care of a household, and fulfilling the many roles of a parent.

Abu Hurairah always encouraged other people to be kind and good to their parents.

One day he saw two men walking together and enquired of the younger one, “Who is this man to you?” to which the young man replied, “He is my father.”  Abu Hurairah advised him by saying, “Do not call him by his name, do not walk in front of him, and do not seat yourself before he does.”

Here are some simple and fun ways to make your father feel special:

  1. Give Dad a day off, and help him by mowing the lawn, taking out the garbage, washing the cars
  2. Make Dad his favorite meal or dessert
  3. Throw a Barbeque party in honor of Dad
  4. Make Dad a memory book with family photos and each page mentioning one reason why Dad is special
  5. Make a trophy for Dad (see children’s arts and crafts)
  6. Take Dad out to his favorite sporting event
  7. Take Dad, Grandpa, and Uncles out on a weekend camping or fishing trip
  8. Give a gift that keeps on giving.  Honor your Father by making a donation in his name.  Send money to orphans or purchase school books for needy children.  This gift will make Dad happy and inshallah will provide him with unlimited rewards (Sadaqa Jariya).

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7 Responses to “Fathers in Islam”

  1. iqra yousaf says:

    thanks 4 highlighting all about

    • What if the father was abuse to the mother in the presence of the kids, and he was the cause of her death; What if he remarried and constantly physically and mentally abuse his daughter and send the daughter to work only to take her money.What does the girl do? Especially if he was not trying to get the daughter married and the daughter took it upon herself to get married at age 30 and father tries to create issue between daughter and husband. how does one react?

      • As human beings in the life span we are likely to make mistakes or choose to follow the righteous or the astray path. No exceptions, this person could be the best or worst father, mother or child or an orphan or a neighbor. Allah the Almighty has defined the status of each family and society member. There is no need to disrespect, use patience and withdraw or keep distance from such astray family or society members. Be bold and take steps or decision making with sincerity, Allah our Creator is all aware of our actions. He knows even before our mind and heart can communicate. He is the Master of the Day of Judgement and only He will pass the judgement. Allah the Merciful has not given an open license to a parent or leader or neighbor an open license to abuse others. Make Du’a or special prayers so Allah the Beneficent bestows his mercy on both and keep us on the straight path of success and peace.

      • Md shahbaz says:

        Some of the fathers do that but not all of them . My father was someone most special to me so please repect your parents as they provide you with all your needs without thinking about anything in return

      • Hey sister I can only say you one sentence for your all questions..

        Dad is your middle door of Janna … May be he is wrong to you.. if you die..
        And if u are going to janna .. think once if the middle door get struck and will not open u can’t go to janna if you need janna then it’s ur responsibility to forgive him.. and.. Allah will forgive you for all those .. sorry to interrupt.. the same situation goes with me..

  2. I miss my Dad who is nomore now. I request the blessed sons whose fathers are alive honor your father hug your father kiss your father I recognise the virtue of those acts just because my beloved dad is nomore now. Let his soul rest in peace. I pray for him for his forgiveness please you who read this comment please I beg for your prayer pray for my dad pray for his forgiveness. He is Abdul Majeeth s/o Modideen .

  3. Assalamu alaikum sister

    I wanted to know that , my husband usually tells me when he says me not to go anywhere against his request… he is telling me to keep HIS CHILDREN and go wherever i want
    Now what i want to know is
    Can’t a mother take her child along with her where she goes without husband’s permission…
    Pls reply me with needful islamic reasons.
    Jazakallahu hyra.


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